This post was inspired by a facebook conversation about Mother's Day. The gist of the conversation was basically that a mom said her Mother's Day wish would be to not be a mom for the day, and most mom's were upset by the statement. While I feel like the good mommy thing to do here would be to join in on the shock of such a statement...I'm going to be honest and say I can relate.
I have the incredible blessing to get to stay home with my boys. I LOVE it, and I LOVE being a mom. BUT...
Eli is up at 7 (if not sooner) to start his day (he also is up once at night). Then I feed him and rush to the shower hoping to be ready for the day before Noah is up at 8. Eli naps around 10, and wakes up just before Noah goes down for a nap at 12. Then Noah is up, and Eli goes down. Bedtime for Noah is 8...but Eli stays up till 10. SO...I have a nice 30 minutes to myself before I go to bed. Combine that with Eli refusing a bottle and you get a mommy who gets one 30 minute break in her 24 hour a day shift (sleeping doesn't count since it is a necessity). I love it, wouldn't trade my life for anything, and I know it will get easier as Eli gets older. But I would be lying if I didn't say that I look forward to the day I can go out kids free for the day and do something for myself.
So...My idea of a perfect Mother's Day? Sleeping in, having Brandon get up with the boys, get them breakfast, get me breakfast, get the boys dressed, teeth brushed and ready for the day. Have him do all the diaper changes while I rest quietly and peacefully. Snuggle with my kiddos for a bit, and I sure wouldn't pass up an afternoon alone at the spa!
Maybe this particular mom put it a little too harsh for popular opinion...but I sure don't blame her for wanting a day to be a little self indulgent.
Thursday, May 6, 2010
The Perfect Mother's Day?
Posted by Amanda at 10:57 AM
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I totally get what you're saying! Nowhere in your post did you say that you wanted the day to not be a mom though. You just want a break, help with your mommy duties, and to not have to worry about feedings, diapers, baths, etc. You want the day to get to do all the fun stuff. I think that's what we all want :) I think the way that mom put it was just way harsh. She may have been trying to just be funny, but I think to our little "community" of moms who have had losses, it just didn't sit right, at least not to me.
After reading about your days though - now I can understand why you'd love a spa day - you NEED it!!
Well I get that...but I also could see myself saying that. I think it was probably said in a joking manner, and that is totally my personality as well. I kid a lot, and am pretty sarcastic as well. I really doubt that she meant that she really didn't want her kids. My interpretation of someone saying they would like to not be a mom for a day is just that they want to do what they want when they want and to pamper themselves.
BUT...I wasn't upset by anyone's opinion on it. Just thought I would give my take on it :)
Well.. Here are my thoughts on it.
Being a SAHM is hard, it is one of the hardest jobs you will ever have. You work 24/7, there are no sick days. If you want to spend the one day a year that is just for you and relax, no one should say anything about it. Your not saying you don't love your kids, your being human and saying I need a break.
Now, on the other hand.. Being a working mom, you spend so much time away from your child. You look forward to spending the time with your child/ren.
I can see both sides, since I have been a WAHM, SAHM, and a working mom.
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